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Emotional Affairs 101 -  

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"Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass . . . it is about learning to dance in the rain"

The funny! 

Husband says: When I get mad at you, you never fight back. 

How do you control your anger? 

Wife says: I clean the toilet... 

Husband says: How does that help? 

Wife says: I use your Toothbrush...... 

Subject: Long Lasting Relationship

Tom and Joe Tough Trivia
	For a man to have a long-lasting relationship, they should marry a woman who is what? Religious Smarter than them and at least 5 years younger Sports fan And the answer is?   1, 2, or 3?  Comments?

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I needed some words like these this morning as I questioned failed and flawed relationships and some that never really got started.  David DeAngelo...and before you sneer, I'd just say take them for what they say.  Spend time with and have people in your life who bring you joy and happiness, and try to avoid the roller coaster people/partners/friends, unless the two of you are riding in the same car of the same roller coaster.  Give thanks this weekend ( Canada only) for those who do bring joy and happiness...a lover, a friend, a real partner, I'm saying to self at this moment!   

Here's where I saw this
"You'll notice that a lot of guys write in to the Mailbags with questions like "I'm dating four women right now, and they're all wonderful, but there's this ONE girl that I just can't get... how do I make the one that isn't interested LIKE me?" This is a curious thing. We humans always want the approval of the person who doesn't want to give it to us. Instead of just walking away and saying "your loss", we often chase after them, begging and pleading for their approval... and thinking that we must have done something wrong. Remember, some people actually ENJOY making other people feel bad. Some women actually ENJOY rejecting men. It gives them a feeling of power. There are MANY women who will spend all week shopping, two hours putting on their clothing and makeup (and doing their hair), just to go out and get attention from men... so they can reject those men, and complain to their friends about what "losers" and "pigs" men are, and how they hate it when men look at them like a "piece of meat". Go figure. Let me give you a little "tough love". Part of growing up, becoming a REAL MAN, and getting this area of your life handled is realizing that not all women are nice people, and not letting those that aren't nice AFFECT YOU. You can reach a point in your life where your attitude become "I do not give anyone permission to take my joy, happiness, and good mood from me". When you get to this point, then IT DOESN'T MATTER if a woman doesn't respond positively to your approach. It doesn't matter if she rejects you. It doesn't matter if she doesn't have a sense of humor. None of this matters when you don't give anyone permission to TAKE YOUR JOY FROM YOU. My advice: Learn to walk away. Learn to blow it"

    I saw this and thought it would be a fun read for women and men.  Men, make sure your clues suggest the heart is involved always, although your head tells you you nheed to show her you do love her in small ways on a fairly regular basis and of course sometime big ways. 

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Talking about 18 Clues He's Still Crazy About You
You say your husband or man "friend" can't express his feelings? Here are all the funny little ways he says, "I love you."

5 Secrets You Should Keep From Your Partner   (link)

I'm all for honesty, openness and frankness between partners.  The nuance is that it be done in a loving, caring way.  Is there too much honesty, or when is honesty poorly timed?  

I'm also a big believer that intelligent couples need good topics to talk about so why not talk about relationships (your, others) from time to time.  It's one of the easiest things to talk about for most of us, especially if we've been in a few.  As well there is always the often altered reality of movies, television and books that influence our notions of how relationships work.

The link above is to an interesting starting point for discussion.

Then there's the follow up list: 

Secrets You Should Always Tell Your Partner (link)

So, sit down, face each other-look at each other, relax, have a coffee or drink, put on some Brazilian beat or some other chill music and get talking, enjoying the give and take along the way...and that beauty opposite that first caught your eye.  

Of course there is the "Too much information" between partners list.  For example, "Babe, you know what I just did in the bathroom", and so on.   We'll get a Top 10 list or links together for the next post.  Comments/suggestions are open.  

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