I must be getting old or I've got a big soft spot somewhere.  If I had ever heard the "lets go slow" or the "let take our time" line in the past, it was clear it was time to move on.  Just women talk for letting a guy know she didn't want to get serious in either of our lifetimes.  It probably still means that in most of the situations, but I did ask myself that are there some possible nuances here that I need to understand better.   In the process of that thinking, I ran across this five page discussion, that gives you the female and male perspective on an interesting situation:  more than a few dates, sex once, apparent outward interest on both sides, etc.  Lots of ideas and thoughts so worth reading, I say and linking to.

What does it mean when a women tells you she wants to go slow

Does it mean anything different if a man says it?

Bob Dylan is in Winnipeg on November 2nd.  Albeit with some facetiousness here, I decided, that based on both of us being aging 60's folk rockers-country rockers (I listened-he played) that this is a can't miss-may never have the chance again, performance.  Nobody's getting younger, but the memories of his influence on our lives in those days, and to this day, is still strong.

So the question becomes!  What will he play that will be high points for me?  As always their is a wealth of information from fan sites. Interesting enough his set list has changed for every show on his Canadian tour, except for his two encore songs.  The Bob Dylan set list link is below.

Bob Dylan - 2008 Tour Guide

Watch for a reviews and links at my I Go To Concerts Blog and here.

5 Secrets You Should Keep From Your Partner   (link)

I'm all for honesty, openness and frankness between partners.  The nuance is that it be done in a loving, caring way.  Is there too much honesty, or when is honesty poorly timed?  

I'm also a big believer that intelligent couples need good topics to talk about so why not talk about relationships (your, others) from time to time.  It's one of the easiest things to talk about for most of us, especially if we've been in a few.  As well there is always the often altered reality of movies, television and books that influence our notions of how relationships work.

The link above is to an interesting starting point for discussion.

Then there's the follow up list: 

Secrets You Should Always Tell Your Partner (link)

So, sit down, face each other-look at each other, relax, have a coffee or drink, put on some Brazilian beat or some other chill music and get talking, enjoying the give and take along the way...and that beauty opposite that first caught your eye.  

Of course there is the "Too much information" between partners list.  For example, "Babe, you know what I just did in the bathroom", and so on.   We'll get a Top 10 list or links together for the next post.  Comments/suggestions are open.  

Our listings of gently used books, music, movies and related products that are available has been updated. We're still looking for an effective template that will encourage more direct purchases, but we feel we've moved forward somewhat with this look. Check out a summary page of used books and feel free to give us feedback.  There are a total of 19 summary pages in total so if you want to browse them all, just move consecutively from 0001 to 0019 in the URL

This is the time of year when hope springs eternal that our golf game will take a magic turn for the better.  I realize now that too often I've not given proper attention to my equipment, my clubs particularly, plus of course shoes.  This is the base element to your game and it needs to be solid.  Only then can you work on the perfectly repeatable swing and smooth putting stroke and so on.

A book, "The Search For The Perfect Golf Club" happened to be leaving my library which is searchable for by keyword in the title such as Golf.  I've linked to a new copy at Amazon.com here but you can search for it almost anywhere. 

As I always do with every book leaving home, with a small tear in my eye and a lump in my throat, I took a quick glance at it.  The Chapter 12, "10 Things You Can Do For Your Equipment"  for $25 or less each caught my attention.  The 10 are:

1. How to properly clean and polish your clubs

2. How to revitalize your grips

3.How to find the sweet spot on your driver and putter

4. How to calculate the right length for your clubs

5. How to estimate your swing speed

6. How to determine the angle of attack of your swing

7. How to identify the most stable roll and flight of a golf ball

8. How to find the correct swing weight for your clubs

9. How to repaint the engravings on your club head

10 How to straighten a bent steel shaft

I'd recommend picking up the book just for this chapter alone.  However, it's also 290 pages of excellent reading for anyone serious about improving their game and having the right equipment for them. 

I'm not saying the most expensive equipment in any way necessarily, I just want to make clear.  We wouldn't want to send our troops to battle with guns that don't shoot.  In the same way, we need to use equipment that gives us the best incremental stroke improvement return on dollars spent.  That doesn't always mean the most expensive of items.  For many of us, our best investment is in maintenance of our existing equipment, a few good lessons with a great teacher and a book or a dvd to help us with the mental side of the game.    

I know this book can help your game and I hope you enjoy your summer of golf more this year.

BR/RGNetwork

A recent post on another of my sites, Best of Mexico, suggested that Mexican developers will have great opportunity to provide comfortable living options for all demographics, but reminded us that many are very discerning purchasers.  Mexican retirement is still well within the means for many if they make wise purchasing decisions.  I know that even the wealthy will not want to make poor financial and lifestyle decisions for their active retirement.

For that, you and I need the advice and experience of people who are actually living in Mexico for most of the year.  One person I can recommend today is Barbie Parks. I've read her free newsletter for many months now and it always contains new and updated information that I can pass on to others. I would say that even if we weren't a marketing partner of hers.  Her book, Retire in Luxury is an excellent resource to have and its just been recently revised and updated and its at a price that is still very reasonable considering the types of decisions you need help with and the money we will be investing or spending over the years in the country.

You can download it immediately.  You can click the book title to see more information on the book, or just click the banner below.

If you have any questions about Mexico and particularly the Puerto Vallarta area, I'd be glad to answer them for you.  A new feature for our sites. Just send me an Ask Bob email or add a comment here.  Barbie Parks is in Mazatlan and I know would be willing to tell you much more about that area.

It was a great night to hear Tom Cochrane perform recently.  See my earlier post about the Cochrane/Cougar-Mellencamp double bill. He introduced this song with reference to Lac du Bonnet and Lee River in the summer for him and a special person in his life at that time.  This is an area I've spent many a summer day on the way to the lake.  Here are the lyrics, I just noticed I had on my computer. 

When we think back to the times when love was strong, it does feel good as Cochrane says and sings, no matter the state of your relationship right now.  That, I think, is timeless love.  A feeling that transcends your day-to-day relationship.  Discover more of Cochrane, I suggest.

"Will you love me forever"-now who sang that?  Love Hard-Live Brave!  (with credit for part of the phrase to a recent Eli Stone show, rapidly become a favorite of mine)  Have a great day!

B

(I Go To Concerts, Redeux Products and Best of Mexico are personal/business RG Network sites)

TIMELESS LOVE  by Tom Cochrane

Timeless love is livin' on
Here in my heart baby
And here in my song

I miss your laugh
And I miss your smiles
I hope you hear this
Across the miles
And if ya do,
Maybe my nights won't seem as long

So I'll sing about you
In the morning sun
And I'll sing about you
When my music's all done
Then I'll smile
'Cause it feels good even missin' ya

So I'll sing about the day you said goodbye
Then I'll sing one to many and I'll start to cry
But that's OK
'Cause it feels good even missin' ya

Cry my memories away
They haunt me by night, honey
And they chase me by day
I think about what I left behind
A piece of my heart and a piece of my mind
But still and all
They weren't enough to make you want to stay

So I'll sing about you
In the morning sun
And I'll sing about you
When my music's all done
Then I'll smile
'Cause it feels good even missin' ya

So I'll sing about the day you said goodbye
Then I'll sing one to many and I'll start to cry
But that's OK
'Cause it feels good even missin' ya

Is there a new style to marketing?.  Certainly there are new means to find and communicate with those who might use or be interested in your product or service.  Obviously a lot of this is happening offline.  An email promoting an online marketing system said there was.  What I liked most was the recap in a few points of what we need to achieve in the process of marketing, or more simply stated, make the sale.  We have to understand why people might make a decision.  It's starts with pain, problems or needs on their behalf, real or perceived, and we must show how we can provide a solution to that problem.

Try to spot these things as you look at other successful marketers or companies, both online and offline.  Note this list was developed for an online campaign in a Web 2.0 world of social networking.  Much of it applies to offline marketing or an online/offline mix as well.   
- Pain and Problems

- Identifying with it

- Provide Solutions

- Reason Why Sale

- Urgency

- Scarcity

- Social Proof

- Why you should Listen to me

- Testimonials

- A BIG promise

- Subtle Life Style with Success Images

- Guarantee

- The "Offer"

- Value Build

... and of course, a final Price with
what else...
A CALL TO ACTION

It's a good list to keep handy when designing or reviewing your campaign.

Have a great day!

BR

(At the Rempel Group and our RG Publishing Network we're attempting to implement the solutions to the pain/problem/need research at new sites with free information and downloads.  An added benefit for visitors will be a free support and research service.  Here's a link to a list of some of our most recent new sites-new and most popular RG Network research and resource sites.  Mexico is a big part of our future plans, personally and business wise. Our Mexico info blog continues to be our most popular site.  We're proud to say that beta testing has started, or will start soon, with several new Mexico related domains, with Best of Mexico resources and info being first to come online.)

Coupons and Deals online

At the same time as I've come to the conclusion that I need to model two or three successful people to reach my personal goals in the shortest possible time, this email came in today promoting a coaching or mentoring program.  It's worth repeating I thought.  I've accepted finally for myself that modelling could also be in the form of direct or indirect personal coaching, not just watching from afar or up close.  This is quite tough to accept for someone, middle age, with an ego, who has "been there...done that" in his life.  I have someone in mind to start and I'm promising myself today to make the contact. I'll let you know.

See the full post at my personal retirement income self coaching site shared with all

Have a great day!

BR    (RG Network's I Go To Concerts recently updated. New site as of April 9: World Hockey)

I was away when my father passed away and this song never fails to tear me up.  I bought the tape a few days ago.  (See my earlier post about how I stumbled upon Paul Garrack and Mike and the Mechanics on HD Net the other day and where that took me.)  It was not a bad relationship, it was just not a family where we said I love you too often especially when I was younger.  That changed when I had my own children, and the song refers to how that changes our perspective on everything.  I wish I had said more to my father though before it was too late. And perhaps, he to me.  My advice: don't wait if you feel it.

The Living Years, by Mike and the Mechanics

Every generation
Blames the one before
And all of their frustrations
Come beating on your door
I know that I'm a prisoner
To all my father held so dear
I know that I'm a hostage
To all his hopes and fears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years
Crumpled bits of paper
Filled with imperfect thought
Stilted conversations
I'm afraid that's all we've got
You say you just don't see it
He says its perfect sense
You just cant get agreement
In this present tense
We all talk a different language
Talking in defence
Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
Its too late when we die
To admit we don't see eye to eye
So we open up a quarrel
Between the present and the past
We only sacrifice the future
Its the bitterness that lasts
So don't yield to the fortunes
You sometimes see as fate
It may have a new perspective
On a different day
And if you don't give up, and don't give in
You may just be ok
Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
Its too late when we die
To admit we don't see eye to eye
I wasn't there that morning
When my father passed away
I didn't get to tell him
All the things I had to say
I think I caught his spirit
Later that same year
I'm sure I heard his echo
In my baby's new born tears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years
Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
Its too late when we die
To admit we don't see eye to eye

As I've noted before, my collection of books, movies and music (except for the highly prized pass on to my children items) is available for purchase.  Each day that a few are purchased I keep asking myself the same questions.  What does the person buying this item want this one for?  A great little mind game.  What can I quickly learn from the book, (using the learn from those who might know more than I method I outlined in a previous post-NLP-modelling)?  Should I keep this item after all?

Here's what is going out of the door today:

Learn Country Line Dancin'-2 tape vhs

The Child from the Sea, by Elizabeth Goudge, (historical novel)

7-Day Detox Miracle, Peter Bennett and Stephen Barrie, non fiction book-naturopathic approach to healthier body and mind

Ice by Anna Kavan-"surrealistic dream novel set in an unrecognizable world padded by ice and snow, run by a secret government, invaded by aggressors, and threatened with nuclear destruction."-from the back cover.  Oops at first I thought it was about Canada.

On that note we drove 2 hours south of here a few days ago and just as I had jokingly told my family, there was at least 90% less snow in the city than in my city and about 75% less in the rural areas.  That marked a difference fascinates me enough to want to find some explanations.   My Thursday and Friday was spent at the Democratic convention in Grand Forks North Dakota as a visitor and at the World Curling Championships.  My focus, as a result, upon return, has been on working on launching our World Curling news and products site and fine tuning our Daily Political News "Daily Pol" site.  As well our Olympic Games Olympic Stars site needed further work I discovered.  That was Sunday.  

Today I want to begin development of a site on Neuro Linguistic Programming and Looking Your Age-Acting Your Age-the good the bad...for those in mid life.

Have a great day!

B

How do forces converge sometimes or is it just the fact our eyes are opened and we have a better focus.

First it was running across a Mike and the Mechanics + Paul Carrack special on HDNet, while checking out their fabulous concert specials on Sunday nights, about a week ago. At the time I tuned in Paul (I assumed it was him) was singing a song that I assumed was called One Good Reason.  And then on Thursday afternoon while browsing the music at a thrift shop which has become of my book and music collection routine, I saw Paul Carrack and One Good Reason from 1987 in cassette.

But the tipping point was a little more research on Paul Carrack after listening to the first side of the cassette: One Good Reason, When You Walk in the Room, Button Off, My Shirt, Give Me A Chance, and Double It Up.

And here I discovered connections to bands and performers that would make my RG Network  I Go To Concerts site lists for performances I have to see.  Ace, Squeeze, Mike and the Mechanics, Nick Lowe (and Dave Edmunds) definitely, and The Eagles (Paul co-wrote) Love Will Keep Us Alive). In The Living Years by the Mechanics is a song that could get included in almost anyone's last wishes play list, me included.

And on that note, about my performances that are must sees,  I just heard that Savoy Brown will be in my area this summer, with Kim Simmonds playing lead guitar and doing lead vocals now.  I'm Tired is one of my all time favorite songs.  "You've got the blues, not me."

And now I'm off to the second side of One Good Reason.  A fabulous morning when you can create some connections that matter to you.

Have a great day

BR

The RG Network's sites at the Guideto.info domain are the weak "sister of our publishing. Most of our traffic comes from search engines and for some reason it appears that our domain name or perhaps some other factors results in the various domains to not be indexed. Some people suggest that you need to have a .com name to truly have results with search. Others suggest that domain type has no impact at all and the content is the only factor.

A makeover of the domain and the sites is in order, to address all possible causes, and we've already begun. The Guideto.info domain will become "Your Guide To A Better Life" with various prescriptions and directions by itself and to our other resource sites we specialize in. All other sites will be reviewed, with some purging and some new ones. It's my little 30 day challenge as publisher/editor. Make this domain a fully functioning part of the network, not some weak "brother".

But now I'm stuck. What is a Better Life? So I'm off for a couple of days to see Grand Forks North Dakota at its busiest with Obama and Hilary Clinton in the city on the 4th, and the World Curling Championships and associated partying beginning on the 4th, with games starting on the 5th. And it's for business, I'll tell my accountant we do have a Political News site and a Curling Product News site. By the end of the little junket, I'll hopefully have some thoughts on the "A Better Life"...money, travel, job, homes, love, family, hobbies, beauty, education, life in balance.....

The domain does have some solid results already with our Climate Change site particularly. The Test Prep, Excellence in Public Relations, Daily Brief and Clean Water sites also do fairly well.
Have a great day
B
Smile Today...It Makes The Day Go Better imho!
.. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a cash advance
...Stupidity is not a handicap. Park elsewhere!
...They call it PMS because Mad Cow Disease was already taken.
... He who dies with the most toys is nonetheless DEAD.
... A picture is worth a thousand words, but it uses up three thousand times the memory.
... Ham and eggs? A day's work for a chicken, a lifetime commitment for a pig.
...The trouble with life is there's no background music.
...The original point and click interface was a Smith & Wesson.
...I smile because I don't know what the heck is going on.
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My lady friend said, "what a perfect title" ...about how couples need to approach the major issues that arise from time to time in their relationship.  I had just told her that this book-I Love You, Let's Work It Out by David Viscott had just sold from my library at the ever growing Redeux Products online store.  Search our inventory for this and other relationship books here.

Couples need to keep learning a bit along the way how to keep yourselves together.  It starts with feeling like you were meant for each other and remembering the big love (and passion) that was easily acknowledged between you two.  It also starts with accepting the commitment you made earlier and taking responsibility for what it entails.  Things don't always work out, I realize, but it's worth your best efforts.

I see Viscott saying much the same thing as I page through the book quickly before it goes out the door to help another couple hopefully.

He quotes Shakespeare the flyleaf, "He love not who does not show his love".  I liked the Happiest Couples short poem that ends the book.

"The Happiest Couples share a unique view of the world.

The happiest couples are partners in a destiny they create together

No one is bound to be what the other cannot achieve

Each is his own person and free

The present is without debts.

The moment is without fear

The answer is I love you.

The question is unimportant"

Viscott also devotes a large chapter to sexual relations.  He says in another way what I know from experience and in my layman ways have suggested couples give equal or even greater effort and focus to as well as all the other things that need atttention. 

Viscott, "It has often been said when sex is bad it is a very large part of a relationship and when sex is good it is a very small part."  I suggest that the effort and time spent is as important as the end results.  Viscott suggests couples could prepare a lovemaking-sexual relations manual.   I think this could be part of their relationship notebook or folder, which most definitely has to have pictures of the happiest most loving times.

The sex relations manual would include the couples thoughts and feelings on the following, he says

1.  Our Erogenous Zones-the map of love

2. What Excites Me..You

3  How our feeling of romance help our sexual relations and what are they

4. What turns us off?

5. Planning spontaneity

6. How I need you to love me

7. Sharing fantasies-and acting on them

8. How should we experiment and continually grow our sexual relations/lovemaking.

So plan your spontaneity and plan to talk and write.

Are these the seven most powerful words for people in a relationship?  "I Love You...Let's Work it Out"   If not, what is?   Comments?

Have a great day!

B

(The site is a member of the Rempel Group's RG Network of online information and help. Visit one or two of our sites where visitors have voted with their clicks.  Best of Mexico , Daily Pol and Climate Change)

This was attributed to Jay Abraham, but anyone with human relations and business experience should know this.

"People WANT To Be ACKNOWLEDGED!"
I've tried to follow that advice for years since I
first heard it.  And it has paid off richly.
Here are some ways you can acknowledge your clients,
readers, subscribers and partners.
* Ask them what they would like from you
* Thank them for any help they render you
* Extend one-on-one assistance
* Just drop a quick personal note to say hello
* Care about their preferences

I believe you can "over thank" your customers.  Try it.  Make them feel appreciated.  Have a great day!

Bob

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